Parents, we try to tell our children things in a way that they understand according to their age. It is not always easy to find the right words or decide what is better to tell or what is better to be silent (at least for now). When the children are 12 years old, who are already considered adolescents until they turn 18, their understanding improves by leaps and bounds so it is easier to be able to explain some things to them and even reason with them about others.
In this stage, many physical, psychological and social changes take place. For their sake, you need to discuss some important topics that will help them make good decisions in the future. Today, we want to explain some things that you will have to talk about with your children from the age of 12, if their understanding and maturity allow you to do so.
Talking about sexuality is necessary to be able to talk about human reproduction. It is important to solve the doubts they have about it since they are little. To do this, you have to be natural in the conversation and expand the explanations according to your understanding. It is necessary that this type of information is obtained through you and not through the Internet or other less reliable means.
The topic of sex should not be taboo in the family, in fact, it needs to be natural and that you have an open mind in these types of conversations. You must make them understand that they are masters of their body and their decisions. Sexual practices must be healthy in order to have a healthy sex life. You can talk about masturbation naturally as it is a way to get to know yourself better. Of course, you cannot forget to talk about consent, respect in sex, pregnancy and contraceptive methods.
The world is full of diversity, we are not the same and that difference is what makes us special, it is the wonder of humanity and species. Therefore, along with diversity, you will have to teach tolerance to the unknown or different and along with it, respect. Respect for each other is essential so that there can be a good coexistence wherever you are.
New technologies are a fundamental part of the life we lead today, but they have a dark side: addiction. Both mobile phones and video games as well as any screen that is used in leisure or work can generate addiction. It is necessary to avoid it and for this you have to explain that first of all, responsibilities always come. It is necessary to control the time that your children spend in front of the screens and even more important: offer them healthier leisure alternatives and as a family.
Children, increasingly at a younger age enter the obsessive world of “likes”, you have to be careful with this and explain the dangers of social networks. Teens want to feel approved of by others and this can lead to bad people trying to take advantage of them. Additionally, social media is also an easy target for bullying. Talk to your children about the importance of privacy on social networks, that they never talk to strangers and that they always keep their content private.
Drugs and alcohol
Drugs and alcohol can also be a problem for teens who want to “grow up” fast but don’t always understand the consequences of their impulsive actions. In this sense, talking to him early about drug use is better than just prohibition. Explain to your children the horrible consequences that the use of these substances can have in people’s lives.